As Mother's Day approaches, we recognize that some mother/child relationships are difficult at best. We often talk about "Daddy Issues" and the scars they can cause. But what about "Mommy Issues?" They are real, and this week we discuss Mommy Issues with Dr. Leesha M. Ellis-Cox . She shines well needed light on the topic. Join us.
Recorded March 28, 2021
We've all heard of daddy issues but what about mommy issues? They are a real thing. It could look like low self-esteem, toxic relationships, "not getting along with other women" or struggles with connecting to our own children. Mommy issues come about when our mothers are abusive, neglectful, or perhaps not as nurturing or as loving as we needed. How our parental relationship played our in our childhood follows us into our adult lives and will likely impact how we parent our own child(ren). In this episode we bring on psychiatrist, Dr. Leesha Cox to help us understand, identify, unpack and find healing with any mommy issues plaguing our lives.
Questions:
How do we know if we have mommy issues?
What happens in the parental relationship that causes the mommy issue syndrome?
What ties mommy issues to self-esteem?
If you find you are affected by your mommy issues how you do avoid passing that down to your own children?
Can we resolve our mommy issues on our own?
Quotes:
Chances are you are probably gonna have to do therapy, but I'm trying to minimize the amount of things I send you to therapy for. - Rhumel
Our health insurance carries mental health so if I am messing up right now, I'm at least providing you access to therapy to help you get right because I know I'm not doing this all right. - Twanda
There is nothing that you do or did to deserve what has happened. You are still deserving of love and acceptance even if your mother can't give it to you. - Dr. Cox
This is not on you, It is not your fault. You are still deserving of love. You can acknowledge that this pain is real. That also helps to usher in the growth and healing process that has to happen. - Dr. Cox
Maybe some of this that your mom did was the best she could. It may have been horrible and inadequate but it was the best that she could do at that time. - Dr. Cox
This is a process of growth. It may require therapy to get there, but to forgive her can really heal you. - Dr. Cox
#NormalizeTherapy! ...We should all be on a quest to protect and nurture our mental health. - Dr. Cox
What we are talking about it health and wellness We haven't done a good job historically of thinking about mental health as part of health. - Dr. Cox
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