Girrrl...Why don't women talk more about our orgasms? This week we have a candid conversation with sensuality coach, Sundi Johnson Moore about orgasms and why 32% of women never had an orgasm or don't know what it feels like. That means that 1 out of 3 women are missing out!!! Let's change that, listen up.
Question: GIrrrl... Why don't women talk more about our orgasms?
Answer: Most women are socialized not to talk about our sexual pleasure.
Sundi (Guest): We absolutely should be talking more about orgasms and we should be talking to our daughters about it too. We should also acknowledge and then deconstruct the "The Good Girl Syndrome" which teaches us to make partner happy in the bedroom without regard to self.
Q) How can women learn how to break out of the good girl syndrome and get to where they can more freely achieve sexual pleasure?
A) Three steps to achieving sexual pleasure:
Q) What keeps us from "getting there"?
A) What we are thinking in the major obstacle. How we have been socialized and what we have been taught. Stay in the moment. Practice mindful sex with the "Five Senses Orgasm". Focus on the sensations not what's on your to do list. Enjoy the ride!
Q) How do you know if you've had an orgasm?
A) The tell tell signs of an orgasm are the muscle contractions. There is a build up and an explosion.
Q) Are they all earth-shattering or are there muli-levels?
A)There are many different ways to reach orgasms. It's common for those different methods to produce orgasms that feel different. There are absolutely different levels of intensity.
Q) How do you engage your husband/partner in this "touch everything" exploration adventure?
A) Communicate! With sincerity, invite your partner to this learning process of touching more, trying new things having more fun. If you have any problems saying this to your person, you still have self work to do to grow your comfort with this to
Q) When do you need to see a doctor about your lack of orgasms.
A)Usually, it's not a physical doctor that's needed but more often a therapist. To address the mental blocks that affects women Sundi's group focuses on whether you are having pleasure. She suggests you get get naked and say nice things about your body. Her group does selfie affirmations and boudoir photo shoots,
Q) What positions help women have orgasms?
A) Those that facilitate clitoral or g-spot stimulation. Toys and props can be used to enhance your favorite positions.
Notable Quote: Never let anything come in-between you and your orgasms!
Referenced Episode: I'm not your Superwoman
Links
Sundi's womens' group: freeyourpleasure.com
https://www.bustle.com/wellness/what-does-orgasm-feel-for-woman
https://www.bustle.com/life/types-orgasms-women-experience-national-orgasm-day
https://www.bustle.com/p/12-techniques-women-use-to-have-orgasm-according-to-omgyes-6803697
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