This year we are celebrating Valentine's day by loving ourselves. Now, if your mind went into the gutter, stop that... now. LOL We are talking about if you don't love yourself fully, how can you truly love another person? So forget the flowers, candy and dinner out. Self-love and self-care is where it's at this year. Love yourself first.
Recorded January 30 , 2021
Valentine's Day is not just for lovers
Q)Girrrl, Can I ask you something? How do you and your husband celebrate Valentine’s day?
A) (Both of us) Very little if anything.
Q) How could this be? We are fortunate enough to have a long-time marriage, why wouldn’t we go all out each year to celebrate our love on Valentine’s Day?
A) Keep reading.
In this episode we discuss our family traditions around Valentine’s Day. Turns out, neither of us make a big deal over the “holiday” as we both see it as a retail ploy to take our money. Lucky for us our husbands agree and we keep it simple. Maybe I should say, lucky for our husbands because isn’t it the men who usually bare the burden of having to jump through hoops to express his love on V-day?
Speaking for the both of us, we want expressions of love from our spouses EVERYDAY! Moreover, flowers die and chocolates go straight to my thighs. In full transparency, we do make sure to do something special for our kids.
We discuss the origin of Valentine’s day which, by the way, was NOT the brain-child of Hallmark like I suspected.
Additionally, we elaborate on why we think this day would be better recognized as a day to show love to yourself. Seriously, how often do we make it a priority to do that? Probably not as often as we should.
Quotes:
I resent the commercialization of Valentine’s Day so much. .....Neither of us feel slighted [by not exchanging purchased cards or gifts on this day] because our goal is to do nice things for each other any time of the year. - Twanda
We spend so much time thinking about being in a relationship and expressing love for each other, but…… I’m really on more of a self-love journey. - Rhumel
Being a mom and a person with a career, there was a time where self love didn’t exist for me like I think it should have. - Rhumel
Not everybody is in a relationship. You should have a relationship with yourself. Honestly if you are not in a good relationship with yourself it makes it a lot harder to be in a good relationship with somebody else. - Rhumel
Let’s start a new trend of sharing what we did for ourselves for Valentine’s Day! - Twanda
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Valentines Day is not just for Lovers
[00:00:00] Rhumel: [00:00:00] Welcome back to our show.
Twanda: [00:00:18] Welcome
back everybody. This isTwanda
Rhumel: [00:00:21] And this is Rhumel.
Twanda: [00:00:23] Hey. Rhumel!
Rhumel: [00:00:25] Hey. girl Heyyyyy. You
Twanda: [00:00:28] Say that like, you mean it
like you do.
Rhumel: [00:00:30] I mean, every single time,
Twanda: [00:00:34] I love that you invited me to this podcast to do this with you. I,
and I love that you said yes. I mean like, seriously, I love that you said yes.
I'm wondering, how did I say yes.
I'm so glad I did.
Rhumel: [00:00:54] I think I kind of tricked you though, because I mean, I didn't purposely trick
Twanda: [00:00:57] you. I know what you did. Yeah. Cause you know what? I did not know. It will be this
Rhumel: [00:01:01] much. I mean, like, I didn't know it was going to be this much. And so I think if we both knew it was going to be this much, we probably wouldn't have done it, but I'm happy.
Twanda: [00:01:11] I know,
Rhumel: [00:01:12] like who knew? So, but I'm happy we're here,
Twanda: [00:01:16] girl. Can I ask you something?
Rhumel: [00:01:18] Absolutely. What's going on
Twanda: [00:01:20] while we're talking about love. I said that I love that you invited me to do this with you. I want to know what do you and [00:01:30] Jimmie do for the day of love this Valentine's day for
Rhumel: [00:01:34] Valentine's day. We do so much because we do nothing.
We do absolutely nothing.
Twanda: [00:01:43] How can you not do anything for Valentine's day? I mean, you're married. You're supposed to you, you have a Valentine's day. Like you appreciate it, woman.
Rhumel: [00:01:54] Okay. So I'll tell you, what we do do is we typically exchange cards and he usually gives me. A candy bar to go along with it.
Not a, not a heart heart thing. Cause he knows. I don't really like, no, cause I don't really like a lot of the little candies that are
Twanda: [00:02:15] here. Who does, does anybody really like that? Okay. Anyway,
Rhumel: [00:02:19] so he usually gets me a little symphony bar cause that's one of my favorite ones I was
Twanda: [00:02:23] going to ask and I didn't know that, so yeah.
Rhumel: [00:02:28] Yeah. I liked the one that's blue. There's a blue one and there's a red one. I liked the one that's blue. That's beside the point. So, but he, he would give me that, but it started off because, um, my husband works in accounting and we, he used to, we both used to work in accounting.
Twanda: [00:02:46] I know, right. Jimmie that's accounting.
Rhumel: [00:02:49] He finds it hilarious himself. He can't believe he's still doing it, but, um, We were both working at an insurance company in Boston. And, [00:03:00] um, they have a lot of regulatory kind of reporting that needs to get done in the first quarter. And so from January 1st, until sometime in March, you just didn't see your spouse.
That wasn't nothing. And so, yeah, so we, he worked obnoxious hours. He worked every single day. So, um, he would be at work for basically spring or winter, I guess you would call it.
Twanda: [00:03:31] I'm excited for you that he doesn't do that job anymore.
Rhumel: [00:03:34] Oh girl. I was so excited. It actually, one of the very first things I said is.
Oh, my gosh. Now we can actually, um, celebrate Valentine's day, but, um, it turns out we celebrate it the same way, I guess, because old habits die hard. And, um, so we don't do that much. And even if we do go out, we'll do it on an alternate day than Valentine's day
Twanda: [00:04:00] I'm Married. I like my husband. I mean, I say, I like him. You assume I love him. Of course, but I like him too. So I enjoy spending time with him and showing him that I love him, but I resent the commercialism of Valentine's day so much. And I don't think I should have to spend a whole lot of money on the card to say something that I [00:04:30] could just say to him.
Or I could write to him on pretty paper. I don't know, but I shouldn't have to spend a lot of money to do that. And fortunately he feels the same way. He's not all into, so. Uh, neither of us feel slighted. If he writes me something and our, he, he professes his love to me in the morning or something like that.
We don't feel slighted by that just because our goal is to do nice things for each other. Anytime of the year. Like anytime, just when we feel like it, I like to have a day where I surprised him with a gift that says that I love him without, but there's no day that mandates I do it on this time. Yeah. So, so I'm like you, we don't do a lot.
Oh, that type of thing. We occasionally go out to eat. Right. Still. I hate to be in lines with everybody else was celebrating for that day. You know, it's like going to church on Easter or Christmas, you know, the people who don't go all year round, they just go on Easter or Christmas. It's like, well, we go all year round.
So we'll go eat on alternate day. Like you guys,
Rhumel: [00:05:39] right. Well, I will tell you this though. It wasn't the way I wanted it. I didn't want it to it this way. So,
Twanda: [00:05:47] you know, I mean, like you told him, honey, we should do flowers and balloons and you should buy me jewelry.
Rhumel: [00:05:58] I didn't expect that, [00:06:00] but I mean, I didn't expect that, but you know, I.
I would have, I would've gladly had celebrated it, had he had the wherewithal to do. Right. And you
Twanda: [00:06:12] understood that that didn't make sense for his calendar. He didn't feel
Rhumel: [00:06:17] slighted, right? It feels slided. No, no, no, because it wasn't, it wasn't his doing first of all, but I just wanted to be, I just wanted to be open about the fact that I would have celebrated it, you know, had he not.
Worked a job that didn't allow us to really do that. I would have
Twanda: [00:06:36] done it. I would celebrate it if that's what my husband needed to feel loved. Like there are some people who, if you don't get them a Valentine's day card or Valentine's day and a gift of some kind. They actually feel slighted, you know, cause it's their love language and that's important to them.
So it was important for me to check in with the husband and make sure that we're okay with handling it this way. And he was very okay with handling it this way. And that helped. Yeah. Like I said, I would have done what it. Takes had been all commercialized if I needed it to be, if that was what he needed, but fortunately we are a matching there.
So neither one of us needed that. And that works really well. I do like to do something for the kids though. Hmm. Like a couple of years ago I bought, I may, I cut out different color hearts and I put [00:07:30] nice things on them and they were individualized things. So for David Jr. I might say, I love to hear you singing all the time.
I'll tell Daniel, I love to pick his brain about something because he just has great thoughts that Danielle or I'll ask. I'll tell Crystal how I just liked talking to her and her having being so. Snarky and smart and, um, just she's. She's great. So just telling them the things that I individually like about them, but now, as I say it, I think we'll be good to me to do to my husband this year.
He doesn't listen to the podcast that often, so I don't think I told anything, but so
Rhumel: [00:08:09] I don't have to worry about it. Cause my sit, listen to it.
Twanda: [00:08:15] I'll say, Oh yeah, I heard that episode. I was like, really? Okay. But I think I'll do a little. I still have to do something for the kids because, um, I guess they're young. And when I was young, we made a bigger deal. Maybe my parents made a bigger deal of it with us. And I like to carry out that tradition a little bit, nothing too crazy, but I'll get them candy where I wouldn't get us candy or I get
Rhumel: [00:08:39] them right.
And that's what, that's where my husband picks up for the girls. He actually does make sure he gets them a card and some, a little bit of candy. He usually gets them their favorite candy, whatever that'd be, you know, whatever that is for each of them. And, um, cause each of them have their own specific candy.
So he makes sure he gets specific ones.
[00:09:00] Twanda: [00:09:00] I'm going to write that down. I might do that for my kids. Get them there.
Rhumel: [00:09:03] I mean, it's a little something, so they don't expect anything big, but I think they enjoy, or they enjoyed getting something from their dad. And I think it sets a good precedent for
Twanda: [00:09:14] it. I really love the idea of a dad getting.
There's daughters, uh, something for Valentine's day. So that the late, the young ladies, when they go out dating, they don't, you know, they're like, well, my daddy gives me foul in times, you know, they can add, they can know that they are worthy of that and that their daddy does it. So of course you got to show me something I'll just, you know, Yeah, skip over that.
Show me you care and the dating arena. I think that is a little more important, um, to do that one year David and I, because we did do that early on give gifts. We bought, we did this twice. Once when we were married, we gave each other the same card. And once we we'd with dating, we gave each other the same, Brian McKnight CD instance.
He croons out all the ballots. I was perfect for Valentine's day.
Rhumel: [00:10:07] Yeah. Yeah. I love Brian McKnight. He's like the first two songs on my playlist that I listen to all the time. So, um, yeah, I could get into that.
Twanda: [00:10:17] Well, anyway, um, so that's, that's what we do for Valentine's day and I'm okay with that.
Rhumel: [00:10:24] Well, yeah, I think it's great.
And I. Let me tell you something. When we started talking about like the whole [00:10:30] idea of like Valentine's day and love and self-love and all that kind of stuff. I, or self care. Um, I started thinking like, so where does Valentine's day come from anyway? And when I tell you, I was convinced that it started.
Somewhere with hallmark.
Twanda: [00:10:51] No, I was positive. I was like, yeah, hallmark. That's the answer. They came up with this, it lines their pockets, them and the flowers and maybe the stuffed animal industry. They all got together and some collaborative and said, we're going to design this holiday. Where it's our day, you know, generally has Christmas, but we going to have, we got our own Valentines day.
Rhumel: [00:11:17] Well, what if I told you it Valentine day Valentine's day goes all the way back in some form or another all the way back to 270 a D.
Twanda: [00:11:29] A D a that's a long time ago. That's how long? I don't think hallmark was out back then.
Rhumel: [00:11:35] No, I don't think so. Either.
Twanda: [00:11:38] The, what does it mean
Rhumel: [00:11:41] has to do with the 2celebration of Saint Valentine
Twanda: [00:11:45] and Saint Valentine?
Rhumel: [00:11:46] Israel? Yeah, actually for, from what I read, there's more than one St. Valentine, but. You know, I didn't get into that much
Twanda: [00:11:54] detail, but Patrick they're St. Nick to Saint [00:12:00] Valentine. This is I'm seeing, uh,
Rhumel: [00:12:04] correlation. All right. Keep going. Okay. Yeah. So. Um, it started off as a Christian holiday and then was adopted, um, into it actually was kind of made into a pagan holiday using some
Twanda: [00:12:21] liberties.
Yeah. Yeah.
Rhumel: [00:12:25] Well, There's just more detail to it. Okay. So, um, but the Romans kind of took over the Valentine's day. And, um, one of the things that they would do is they would actually actually, the Roman holiday had to do with fertility. That was the biggest thing. And so they festival around fertility
Twanda: [00:12:48] and.
Make babies. Is that what happens? I mean, love
Rhumel: [00:12:53] fertility, babies. I mean, they kind of in the same
Twanda: [00:12:58] realm February, I'm just trying to
Rhumel: [00:13:06] figure it out. Yeah. Yeah. Well, and. This is now, this was the crazy thing to me is that though young women, the youngest young, single women would place their name in an urn and the city's bachelors would come and pull their name from this urn. And that's how they would choose their women. Many of these matches actually ended in marriage.
Twanda: [00:13:29] Okay. [00:13:30] So I'm rolling my eyes
sounding. So. Bachelor married at first sight. Love is blind F
Rhumel: [00:13:42] here. Well, you know what? It's so funny when they say nothing is new, nothing it's like that with cameras, right?
Twanda: [00:13:52] The men are picking the women have the, why can't it be the other way around? I do know the Bible says something about when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing, but.
Rhumel: [00:14:05] Yeah. Like I don't have anything for you there. I just, but anyway, anyway, then the Christians try to take this back. Okay. So, um, February and France, February 14th, France and England, February 14th was believed to be the beginning of bird's mating season. And so
Twanda: [00:14:29] those are the ones who we reproduce during this time again.
Rhumel: [00:14:33] Yeah. And so it all transpires, it all comes down to. That's where Valentine's day
Twanda: [00:14:40] con what happened with the church, bringing it back now I'm really into this story. Okay. So the church brought it back and they said, no orgies, like y'all been doing last night. They kind of related
Rhumel: [00:14:52] it to the whole day, from what I can see, they kind of related it to this whole beginning of the birds meeting season.
So I think it [00:15:00] was the kind of, cause they stripped out the whole sacrificing of. Animals and
Twanda: [00:15:07] animals were
Rhumel: [00:15:07] sacrificed? Yes. Okay. So wait a minute. They didn't call it Valentine's day when it was, when it was picked up by the Romans, it was a Roman name for it, but, um, But they would actually like slap people with, um, the hides of some of these, um, sacrifice animals.
And it was supposed to bring on fertility. I was trying to spare you, but you kept on asking, okay. I was trying to spare you. But anyway, they were just also saying that Valentine's day greetings actually went back to the 14 hundreds, the reading.
Twanda: [00:15:47] Yes. It's my elementary school year, but, but like further
Rhumel: [00:15:51] than that, right.
So you said the oldest known Valentine in existence was a poem written in 1415 by Charles Duke of Orleans. So. That's a little bit on Valentine's I'm sure it's a little bit skewed. I'm sure it's me taking it from an article, but I was just surprised at a, it went all the way back then and that there was so much history involved with it and that it wasn't hallmark holiday.
I just was flabbergasted, but. There we go. Okay. So
Twanda: [00:16:28] that's interesting. I was [00:16:30] just doing a Google search on when hallmark was founded and it was in 1910. So apparently Valentine's day was sold.
Rhumel: [00:16:42] Yeah, but I just was thinking about like, Valentine's day, like, you know, we spend so much time thinking about being in a relationship and, um, expressing love for each other and everything, but, um, on the journey that I'm in, I'm really on maybe more of us self-love journey.
I've got the man that I, that I love. Right. And, um, we're good. Right. But I think as being a mom and, um, you know, person with a career and all that kind of thing, there was a time where maybe self-love in its purest form. Didn't maybe exist for me the way I think it should have.
Twanda: [00:17:32] So you talking about loving yourself this Valentine's
Rhumel: [00:17:37] day?
Twanda: [00:17:37] Yes. The idea of doing something well, it's the nature of our podcast episodes lately is about taking care of the self care, self love, I guess maybe self pampering, because. I can think of a [00:18:00] time because we thought it made sense, David. And I thought it made sense to give each other a gift we could both use for Valentine's day.
Like one time we bought massages so we could both get massages done and. Um, I looked at other things when we bought one thing that was whole and pampering for both of us. Right. It's not, that's not a bad idea for Valentine's day quality.
Rhumel: [00:18:27] I'm kind of digging it. And I figured like everybody can do it. You know, not just people who are in relationships, right.
Not everybody is in a relationship, but you should have a relationship with yourself. And honestly, If you're not in a real good relationship with yourself, it makes it a lot harder to be in a good relationship with somebody else.
Twanda: [00:18:47] I don't know that, uh, you just drop wisdom right now. That is true. And even those of us who have found ourselves, you know, we are in relationship.
We can't forget that loving ourselves is a requirement. It helps us be better in relationships if we can help ourselves. So that's important. I wanted to, um, To go off track just a little bit. There was a, um, uh, somebody on Facebook had said something about how it was December and they were looking at.
Costco or Walmart or somebody and hands day stuff bought in December. And I was like, who's going to come with me to tear [00:19:30] down this Valentine's day. And I was like, me, I'm there. I'm with you. And they'd be like, what are you married woman tearing down Valentine's day. I was like, yeah, if it's an up in December tearing you down, but everything.
But I think there's this thought that only people in relationships. Married people should be celebrating Valentine's day. And I love the idea that no, everybody can celebrate a day of focusing on love, even in a relationship, letting it be loving yourself. Yeah. Not like a new trend
list for us. What it is that you did for yourself for Valentine's day.
Rhumel: [00:20:13] I think we should. And I mean, like, I think particularly in this last year, the whole idea of self-care, um, you know, and even like on, on Insecure, right, then they have self care Sundays
Twanda: [00:20:32] or something like that. And they, I remember seeing them paint their toenails and jogs together.
That's all I can say I did. I smoke way too. Okay. I can't
remember what they did, but yeah, they, they were
Rhumel: [00:20:46] all do something. They are onto something. But I think like this year in particular, it's been so stressful people overall until I think the whole idea of self care [00:21:00] really. Has taken off, you know what I mean? Like the whole idea of, um, making time for yourself and, um, actually doing things that are good for you.
Like
Twanda: [00:21:14] right now,
Rhumel: [00:21:17] Do you have, do you have things that you do for yourself right now? I know I didn't ask
Twanda: [00:21:26] how I did, but the good news is that, whereas I haven't done a whole lot for self care as has, as a norm. I definitely don't have self care. Sundays. If I did, it would be the once a month self-care Sunday, but I'm working on.
Adding that into my world before the COVID time, I decided that I was going to get my hair done every, um, every month. Um, and that was a self-care thing. I had denied myself or said I didn't need. And I loved that. Um,
Rhumel: [00:22:03] like, I mean, now I know you get your hair done, but what does it do for you? Like, is it.
Twanda: [00:22:09] When I'm sitting here on, on zoom with you, I can say, Oh my hands, cute. You know, and I didn't have to do a whole lot and stress a whole lot about it. Um, just to, to make me feel pretty are, and that makes me feel good. Then effects by Def I look like, Oh, I looked like. Hell [00:22:30] warmed over. Yeah. It at least helps.
Cause sometimes I still wake up feeling that way, but at least my head, it was cute. Right. It actually does something to help me feel better. Just like when I paint my toenails with. Um, there's a very nice toenail, POL a fingertip Polish paint my toes. So that's a whole another story. We'll talk about it later, but I'm so much into mood rings and changing of, of colors.
And I have a chromo, the tone colors as you look at it, or you move your hand or feet. Cause I don't paint my females anyway. And I love that. And I like looking down at my feet, which I really don't give a lot of attention to otherwise and say, Oh, but the Hills are so pretty. And it simply makes me feel good.
I sound so girly. I like the pretty thing, but that I own it. That's what makes me feel good. And you add, so those are things that I have been doing that I added in the past year. That, um, helps me out and helps me feel good. Now trying to add more things to myself like baths. No, I shower daily. Y'all I mean, sitting in a bathtub and relaxing some candles like that, to me, feels like heaven.
[00:24:00] Rhumel: [00:24:01] You know what? I don't know if it sounds weird, but like that doesn't, that doesn't do it for me. Like, I will take a bath and, you know, I'll put some candles out there and, you know, and I'm just kinda like
Twanda: [00:24:13] that. Doesn't do it for me. It does. I bet you'll say something like exercising or something.
Rhumel: [00:24:22] Um,
Twanda: [00:24:26] okay. That's good. If a bath doesn't sound like the ultimate pampering woman, what does.
Rhumel: [00:24:33] Um, no, my ultimate pampering, I would say is me getting some time to do something that I like to do. Like, um, I like doing arts and crafts. I don't, I had gotten away from them. Um, and so, you know, I hadn't done them at all.
And so actually just this past, like last three, four months, I started getting some more art supplies and I'm starting into doing a little bit of doing more stuff for myself, but I found that taking that time just for myself, where I can concentrate on it. Um, Really makes me feel good. And I see a product afterwards that I can say
Twanda: [00:25:19] projects right
Rhumel: [00:25:22] now.
I'm in a small project. You know what I mean? Because there are big projects that do take more time and I'm a little bit [00:25:30] hesitant to do that because that takes a lot more. Dedication or whatever. I, I, right now I need that instant gratification of I did it. I took this time out for myself, um, and things, but I, what I'm really focusing on this year is doing the self care things that are going to help me.
Do better, not just necessarily feel good in that moment, but, um, help my mental state a little bit, you know, like, um, I get more rest.
Twanda: [00:26:10] Yeah. That's a good one. And that does help your mental state tremendously. It does for the people around you when you're well-rested.
Rhumel: [00:26:19] Yeah. And also I'm also working on decluttering because.
I think that really does affect my mental state as well. And so
Twanda: [00:26:30] you want to declutter and I want to live in a decluttered environment. I don't want to do the thing that's required to declutter. Yeah.
Rhumel: [00:26:41] Yeah, but that's part of, honestly, that's part of the self care thing. That's what I think like, and so for myself, I'm taking an I'm setting aside a little bit of time.
It doesn't feel good in that moment of like, who wants to sit down and, you know, I told you I was going to clean out [00:27:00] my bedside table and, um, I mean, I don't want to do it, but I know when I come back into my bedroom, it's going to feel it helped my bedroom feel better. So I feel more comfortable at it and I can relax better in it.
And so,
Twanda: [00:27:16] especially in the bedroom, it helps to just be decluttered.
Rhumel: [00:27:20] Yeah. I'm just trying to do little things that will help me with my mental state. Um, my emotional state. I'm also, uh, attempting to do more things spiritually so that I can feel more. Comfortable where I am or grow a little bit more there.
So I'm doing some things and I just, but I realize that it's truly, when you do those things is truly an expression of love for yourself. And that's really not
Twanda: [00:27:55] easy. Do like the decluttering, the, it sounds like work and it is work. But if we change our mind about what we're thinking about self care, it takes work.
It's not all pampering, I guess we'll be there. And, you know, We'll be a happy woman when your nightstand is all cleaned off or out. And you're like, Oh, I am so free. I can see, I can imagine you feeling really great about that, but maybe not in the middle of it. Yeah.
Rhumel: [00:28:27] Yeah. I'm not looking forward to it, to be honest [00:28:30] with you, but that's my thing has like, uh, it's having.
Cleaned the insides of it for, Oh, I don't know, 10 years. So who knows what kind of stuff I've shoved in this thing? So it means I'm going to have to make decisions. Do I keep it, do I throw it away? Where do I put it? If I'm going to keep it? Cause I don't want it in here anymore. You know? I mean, those are decisions and I know that doesn't sound hard, but anybody who's organizing
Twanda: [00:28:59] yeah, no, we all know it's hard.
That's hard. He wants to do that. Nobody, I don't even want to do it, but I get your point though. It will feel fantastic when we clean out the places that are cluttered around us. Cause that makes me feel bad. Um, I actually do have to exercise and I don't enjoy that. I think what I will enjoy is the feeling like I started a healthy habit.
Yeah, and then I'm maintaining it. I want it to be a lifestyle change, so I ain't gonna do anything crazy right up front. I'm just gonna do a little something, build a habit and try to build on that and call it a win. But that'll make me feel good just to be able to say I the exercise. I walked 20 minutes a day, three times a week.
When my doctor asked me on my birthday, when I go to my doctor's visit, I always hate saying, no, I don't exercise. I want to feel good at the time. I know by at the time I go back, [00:30:00] I really want to say, I might have lost all the pounds that COVID gave me. Cause I'm blaming COVID. I didn't have COVID. So the pandemic gave me so, but I.
Want to be able to say that one of my healthy habits is that I move my body more. I just wish I liked to exercise more, but that's a whole nother episode too. And I do it because not that I like it and that I enjoy it. And not that it's fun, but it's ultimately good for me. And tomorrow Twanda. When I'm at the doctor's office can feel good and say, yeah, I do three times a week or something.
I don't know anything regularly. I'm going to be proud of myself no matter what they share about it, I'm going to be proud of myself.
It's
Rhumel: [00:30:44] true. That's true. I feel you, when you know, one, one other thing that I am doing that I I'm going to put in the self care category is I am back to taking voice lessons.
Oh, I'm
Twanda: [00:30:58] excited. I love it with you. Do you? Well, cause I know that and your happy place to practice something of your practice, your skill, so that one's a good,
Rhumel: [00:31:08] I love doing it. And I love my teacher who is literally. More than half my age younger. You know what I mean? So it's always so much fun.
Twanda: [00:31:21] Huh? I wasn't sure if you're going older or younger with that, she is, she's a kid,
Rhumel: [00:31:29] she's a kid [00:31:30] with kids and, um, you know, so she has a lot of responsibilities.
She has her own business. I'm so proud of her. She has her own business. Um, and she is running it very well. She has lots of employees and, well, I mean,
Twanda: [00:31:46] it'd be great. When a podcast has employees.
Rhumel: [00:31:49] Oh, yes, no, our podcast we'll have employees. I've already envisioned when that
Twanda: [00:31:54] happens, though, I know we're going to do it.
I was just envisioning how great it will be.
Rhumel: [00:32:00] Oh, I already have a list of things that they will be doing.
Won't that be the greatest self care ever giving it over to somebody? Oh, my gosh, we love the podcast and we love the talking, but I tell you what, it's a whole nother thing to do. Some of this other steps
Twanda: [00:32:26] that goes a long way, because we love this part that makes us do the other bread. That's
Rhumel: [00:32:30] right.
Twanda: [00:32:31] Yeah, that's right.
Do the other part to get to this part, to make that all work,
Rhumel: [00:32:35] but yeah, it's something else,
Twanda: [00:32:39] but everything else was self care. I do. I find doing this podcast is a lot of work and you have to set aside time to get it all done at the same time. I'd love having a podcast and I can say, yeah, I'm contributing to the internet content of the world.
You know, I, [00:33:00] I have something to say and I'm putting it out there.
Rhumel: [00:33:03] I didn't get to do with like one of my favorite people in the whole entire world. Absolutely.
Twanda: [00:33:08] Actually I probably would not do it without that. Just, no, I don't think I have enough. I couldn't do all this without the bonus of having somebody.
I enjoy so much being on the other side of the microphone.
Rhumel: [00:33:23] I agree with that. I agree with it. I couldn't, I, if you had said no, I don't know that I would have proceeded in any form or fashion, so I'm so glad you said yes. Oh,
Twanda: [00:33:33] and one other thing. What is that? I said, I love you girl.
I
Rhumel: [00:33:45] think it's awesome. I hope that everybody hopefully got a little bit of something. Like maybe you look at Valentine's day in a different way
Twanda: [00:33:54] for this year care in a different way. Pampering yourself. It's not always fun and easy, but it's worth it.
Rhumel: [00:34:03] It is, I think that's, I think that's the key. I think a lot of us have seen self-care as being just pampering and it can be, it definitely can be, but I also think that doing some of the, yeah, the heart, the work too is at least.
Two good things. And ultimately that is self-care. So I hope that you guys do some self care on Valentine's day. I hope that you share your love that you have for [00:34:30] yourself with your favorite person, whoever that might be. All right. Well, thank you guys for listening. We hope that you will come back and make sure you subscribe.
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Rhumel: [00:35:18] that's girl with three R's. So until next time, peace and blessings.